Think Through Your Responses

by | Jul 25, 2024 | second try

SECOND TRY

OVERLOOK OFFENSE –  (Day 5 of 6)
(Need to start at the beginning? Day 1)

Thank you, God, for another day of practice. 🙂 I surely need one (or many more).

… it is (a person’s) honor and glory to overlook a transgression or an offense [without seeking revenge and harboring resentment]. Proverbs 19:11b AMP

Let’s take the day and keep an eye on our feelings and responses.

THOUGHTFUL WOMAN

If there is any angst, try to catch it early. Pause as much as you can. Give yourself time to think through your responses.

I’ll do likewise. Hopefully, I can learn from my successes today rather than my failures.

My borage plant is finally blooming.

BORAGE BLOSSOM

The flowers are so interesting and the butterflies and bees love them. (The plants are not really prickly, rather just fuzzy.)

 

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I Blew It

by | Jul 24, 2024 | road blocks

.WHAT'S STOPPING YOU?

OVERLOOK OFFENSE (Day 4 of 6)
(Need to start at the beginning? Day 1)

So I blew it.

… it is (a person’s) honor and glory to overlook a transgression or an offense [without seeking revenge and harboring resentment]. Proverbs 19:11b AMP

Paul and I had one of those mornings, I got a bit cranky, and I didn’t see it until I was a ways down the road in our “conversation.”

1. It was early and my sleep had been poor.
2. I hadn’t had my coffee yet.

COFFEE CUP

3. I got royally ticked that Paul did not understand my perspective (I was seriously not overlooking anything).
4. I responded defensively and poorly.

I need to be aware of those times when I’m not at my best, and I need to examine the need to defend myself. All in all I did a sucky job of handling the situation.

But I learned something about myself and hopefully I will do better next time. I obviously need more thought and practice.

How did y’all do? Need more practice?

Here’s a picture of Tilly.

TILLY

I need the comfort and humor (how do cats sleep that way?).

 

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Off With Offense

by | Jul 23, 2024 | first try

GIVE IT A TRY

OVERLOOK OFFENSE (Day 3 of 6)
(Need to start at the beginning? Day 1)

During the day, if you feel a bit of angst, pause to see if there is something you can overlook or if you need to kindly address an issue.

… it is (a person’s) honor and glory to overlook a transgression or an offense [without seeking revenge and harboring resentment]. Proverbs 19:11b AMP

Keep an eye on your heart attitudes as well. Overlook any offense, forgive, and set down hard emotions.

WOMAN COVERING HEART

If you struggle significantly with it, it may be that the issue needs to be discussed rather than overlooked.

Give yourself plenty of time to consider it all and asks for God’s help if you choose to overlook an offense. Do a complete work in what you do and how you feel.

Paul’s been working hard to extend our garden.

PAUL EXTENDING GARDEN

(Why does he do this in the heat of summer? To kill the evil quackgrass roots. Tilling in hot weather is about the only thing that really works. Then you have to stay on top of any new sprouts.)

 

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What’s In Your Heart?

by | Jul 22, 2024 | self-examination

SELF-EXAMINATION

OVERLOOK OFFENSE  (Day 2 of 6)
(Need to start at the beginning? Day 1)

Let’s take today to look in the mirror.

… it is (a person’s) honor and glory to overlook a transgression or an offense [without seeking revenge and harboring resentment]. Proverbs 19:11b AMP

How well have you done to overlook offenses?

I’ve shared the Amplified version of this verse because it talks about heart attitudes as well as how we live this out.

HEART

I’ll own there are times that I do the right thing, but I still have hard feelings. Now, I think it’s right to act well and work through your feelings later if the situation calls for it. I’m just aware that I haven’t always had that emotional follow through. This makes it especially hard to deal with repeat offenders.

I think it’s also important to consider where it’s appropriate to overlook an offense and where it’s a healthy choice to speak up about a problem. It does take some sensitive consideration. The wisdom of a good friend can help.

Some dear friends invited Paul and me to an evening of Classical music in the park.

CLASSICAL MUSIC IN THE PARK

It’s been a while since I’ve done a park event and I thoroughly enjoyed it.

 

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Overlook It

by | Jul 21, 2024 | concept

CONCEPT FOR THE WEEK

OVERLOOK OFFENSE  (Day 1 of 6)

Here I am in Proverbs again. 🙂

… it is (a person’s) honor and glory to overlook a transgression or an offense [without seeking revenge and harboring resentment]. Proverbs 19:11b AMP

We live in a messy world and we all have areas of brokenness and sin. There will be offenses.

FUSSY COUPLE

This week, can we consider the concept of overlooking offenses? Let’s talk to God about this concept today. What does His Word say about it? Where have you seen this concept lived out well? Poorly?

I’m peeling quail eggs … a mess of them.

SHELLING QUAIL EGGS

They’re to share at a picnic and Paul wants to pickle a few too.

 

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Make Plans

by | Jul 20, 2024 | let's chat

SATURDAY AM COFFEE CHAT

We’re still baking in the heat here in Washington, but the forecast is looking cooler. I just started seeds for a fall garden and looked at a few crochet patterns for fall and winter creativity. I actually peeked at some Christmas ornament designs the other day (I like to give ornaments as gifts at Christmas).

Having some near future plans is so enjoyable and keeps me on track.

Just as a concept, how would that play out in our marriages?

COUPLE MAKING PLANS

What plan could you make that would be enjoyable for both you and your sweetie? What would keep you on track for maintaining and growing your relationship? A shared life needs nurturing.

Generally speaking, if you don’t plan for it, it doesn’t happen.

Make plans.

We’re rocking the solar.

GREENHOUSE WITH SOLAR PANELS

Paul set up a couple of solar panels to power the fans in our greenhouse. (He’s taking a raspberry snack break.)

 

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