HARMONIZE (Day 3 of 6)
(Need to start at the beginning? Day 1)
As you go through your day, look for ways to walk in agreement with others (especially your sweetie).
Live in harmony with one another. Romans 12:16a ESV
You don’t have to imitate others or wholly agree with them, just be yourself and look for ways to work with others.
Paul and I often find ourselves doing opposites.
Recently, we were working on a new garden fence for our personal vegetable garden (8 feet to keep the deer out). Paul wanted to make the top of the garden fence run level at a 90° angle to the fence posts, and I was trying to make the fence run nicely along the ground (which is in no way even approaching level). He wanted the top line of the fence to visually work with the fence posts and I wanted to make the bottom snug to the ground to keep out small critters.
We considered our “whys.” Neither of them were wrong. We finally decided to go with a level top (for Paul’s sanity) and we’re looking at a couple of creative workarounds for the bottom. We could cut the bottom of the fencing to match the ground or put a line of smaller gaped wire along the bottom. (That’s a spring project, so we have time to think it through.) The fence is up and the deer are out. It’s all good.
We approached the project differently, but we found a way to value both of our wishes and harmonize.
Where do you and your spouse struggle? Can you find a way to honor both of your needs and wishes? Get creative!
I think Tilly wants in.
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Image credits – fence post © Karsten Paulick / Pixabay, Tilly on the door © Lori / Doing Marriage Well
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