This week I want to introduce you to the idea of false peace, and how that hurts our marriages. The concept of false peace comes from Peter Scazzero’s Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, a book Lori and I highly recommend.
We view conflict as a sign that something is wrong, so we do whatever we can to avoid it. We prefer to ignore difficult issues and settle for a false peace, hoping our difficulties will somehow disappear on their own. They don’t. ~ Peter Scazzero
When Jesus called us to be peacemakers, He was not asking us to deny reality, and He certainly was not asking us to lie!
This is a huge issue in some marriages. Sometimes it’s both spouses, other times it’s just one. Either way, pretending the problems are not there only allows them to grow worse.
If the spouse on the receiving end of false peace accepts it at face value, they have no clue there’s a problem. When the false peacemaker can’t take it any more and explodes, they look crazy to their spouse. And to others if the issue is shared beyond the walls of the home.
I’ll give some examples of false peace tomorrow. Meanwhile, examine yourself; are you guilt of this? Do you suspect your spouse is doing this?
~ This is Paul, and false peace is no peace at all!
Resource: Disrupting False Peace as God’s Path to True Peacemaking Pt. 1 ~ Emotionally Healthy Discipleship Blog
Had a rare chance to (safely) get a picture of a moose! This is a yearling shedding its winter coat.
It was not happy about me, but I was in a truck, and it was down a steep hill, so it put up with me.
Image Credit: © Paul H Byerly created with ideogram.ai & Paul Byerly
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