Discussing different with regard to sex in a Christian context can be challenging. The church has a long history of allowing Gnosticism and Victorianism to taint what God says about sex in marriage.
God seem to be big on married couples having a lot of extraordinary sex. In both Song of Songs and Proverbs, we are encouraged to enter into sex with our spouse with abandon that is likened to being drunk. Sadly, some folks in the church have not seen that memo.
The good news is your sex life is private. You don’t have to tell, and if folks ask, you can let them know you don’t find answering appropriate. Your sex life is between the two of you, and God. If no one else is involved, it’s not harmful, and you both want and enjoy it, then it’s almost certainly okay with God.
However, just because you can do all manner of things sexually, doesn’t mean you need to do all of them. Or even most of them. Sex tends to be better when you learn something well, and that takes a lot of repetition. Most couples find a handful of things that they greatly enjoy and do those. They may do something different from time to time, and over time certain things will go out of favour, while others replace them. But most happy sex lives are not wild or massively varied.
One important issue here is that men are easily aroused by a wider range of things than most women. And men can climax from more things than women can. Keeping your sex life reliable and easy for her needs to always be a top consideration.
~ This is Paul, reminding you that how you do Sex Well is no one else’s business!
Hardly an impressive image, right?
This was originally a large pile of saw dust and bark from processing fire wood last winter. I didn’t want to look at all summer, so before we could no longer burn, I lit it up. This picture is after five days. It’s not been a fast process, but it’s now about 10% of what it was.
Image Credit: © Paul H Byerly created with ideogram.ai & Paul Byerly
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I need tips on rekindling the fame that I have been blowing out for decades.
As a wife having not been doing sex well for the last 20 years. Too many kids, too many activities, opposite work schedules or just too popped to whop.
All excuses!-I was wrong.
Now 40 something, no kids, more time and armed with good knowledge thanks to Paul I am excited about being intimate with my husband regularly ( definitely much more frequently then past few years).
It seems to be harder than
I expected to get him to believe I won’t say no.
How can I help rewire his brain and jump start his sex drive so we can do sex well now and going forward.
40 something “I expected to get him to believe I won’t say no.”
That can be a big problem. He is finally okay with less, and if he goes along with the change you say you want, he could get hurt again.
One option is to not wait for him to ask. Just grab him and go for it. For both of you, and on occasion just for him.
There are some pretty daring ideas at https://themarriagebed.com/how-to-turn-him-on/
Where is the opposite article: “How to turn her on?”
Oh, that it were that easy!
Arousing a woman’s body is pretty straight forward. But if you don’t have her mind on board, she won’t want you to arouse her body, or want to have sex if you do.
Turning a woman on requires making her feel loved and desired apart from sex. It’s about romance and relationship.