When I am frustrated with my wife, I would like my first response to be praying “Lord, what am I doing wrong?”
That has never been my first response. But it’s moving up the list as I become wiser.
I am not suggesting by this that I think Lori is always right. Or that women are more often right. I think a woman should speak the same prayer.
I am responsible to God for what I do and say. Even if my wife is wrong, I’m accountable for any unkind word I speak, or any rude action I take. And the whole log and speck thing means God expects me to deal with myself first, even if I know it’s mostly her.
Proverbs 15:1 tells us that “A soft answer turns away wrath”. It also warns us that “a harsh word stirs up anger”. Dealing with any fault in myself and praying to be loving is the wise way to deal with any problem. Even if I am completely in the right.
I will confess that all too often I react with anger or defensiveness rather than love and grace. Again, I’m getting better. But I still have a ways to go.
When I stop to pray first, disagreements and arguments go so much better.
~ This is Paul, reminding you that Doing Marriage Well is easier when you pray!
Found this fellow going walk-about at the top of our driveway. I suspect he was moving from a drying up pond.
I moved him to our pond, which stays wet all year.
Image Credit: © Paul H Byerly created with ideogram.ai & Paul Byerly
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