Is sex a want or a need? I’ve heard a great deal of arguing about that question over the years.
My approach to this is consistency. Sex should be treated the same as the non-sexual wants and needs we’ve disused this week.
I often hear, “But sex is different.” Yes, it is. It’s far more personal and powerful than many other things. If it deserves special treatment, that would be to treat it as more, not less. It should get at least the consideration other things get.
On Monday, I said reducing what your spouse desires to a want allows us to justify not giving what is desired. Does it matter if it’s a want? Don’t you want to meet your spouse’s wants? Especially in an area where you alone can do that?
On Tuesday, I talked about the selfish farmer who was unwilling to go outside his comfort zone to give his wife something she needed. Love stretches itself in reasonable ways.
On Wednesday, I talked about generosity having no need to discern wants from needs, because it wants to meet both. Generosity wants to give what is desired, and finds ways to do that.
And to balance it all, I suggested when we are the receiver, we must be reasonable. Being selfish about what we want is not loving.
~ This is Paul, reminding you that Doing Marriage Sex Well looks a lot like doing the rest of marriage well.
The does are giving birth, so the yearling deer are on their own and a bit clueless.
This one forgot it was supposed to run for thirty seconds.
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