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Sex need not end as we age. There are couples in their sixties and seventies still having regular sex. And many of these folks say they are having the best sex of their lives.
Menopause should not end sex. When it does, it usually means the woman had not been enjoying sex and was looking for an excuse to stop. Besides, there is a growing awareness that regular sex can reduce menopause symptoms. And we’ve heard from women who said sex was better after menopause.
Menopause can create some speed bumps. Hormone replacement therapy can make a big difference. Topical estrogen applied to the vulva can keep the tissues healthy and keep lubrication going. An artificial lubricant can also be used.
The secrets to great sex as we age are attitude and a willingness to make changes as needed.
Nighttime sex is not the best choice for older couples. His erections will be better in the morning, and they will both have better energy earlier in the day. I talked to one senior man who said he and his wife have sex after breakfast every morning. Other couples have found an afternoon nap may not involve sleep.
You may have to find a new position to accommodate mobility. Or perhaps what used to be seen as foreplay is now the main event. If hand strength is an issue, a vibrator, or a male stroker might be a great addition to your sex life. Some older couples have realised that sex need not include orgasm for either spouse to still be great sex. Other couples enjoy masturbating together.
Sex is not just for the young. Sex is for any couple who wants to enjoy the special intimacy that only sex can provide. If you both want to keep being sexual, you can find a way.
~ This is Paul, and Doing Sex Well looks different at different ages.
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