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Another reason we fail to go after the real marriage problem is that we can’t face the truth. We “work on” other issues because we are unwilling to acknowledge the real issue.
Some marriage issues are scary. Admitting our spouse doesn’t care about us as they should is devastating. It’s easier to pretend they just don’t know how to show their love. But learning about love languages won’t change anything if your spouse has no desire to show you love. Pretending you need better communication skills when you have not had sex in 18 months is another example.
The corollary of this is not being willing to admit your part in the big issue. It’s not all you, but some of it is, and you don’t want to work on that. Maybe you like your part and won’t change it. So you work on other things where you’re willing to admit and work on your part. But that won’t fix the big issue.
Sometimes both spouses are unwilling to face their part of the big issue. So they have an unspoken agreement to play at fixing things by dealing with secondary issues.
When fear keeps us from dealing with the real issue or issues, we can’t heal our marriage.
~ This is Paul, and facing reality makes Doing Marriage Well possible.
We had a pair of eagles flying around a good part of the morning.
They eyed the rabbits and chickens, but the crisscrossed strings over the yards kept them away.
Image Credit: © Paul H Byerly created with ideogram.ai & Paul Byerly
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