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Yesterday I talked about you, yes, you, having a great marriage. Do you think that’s possible? Someday I’d like to do a survey on that. I suspect the majority of married folks would say they don’t think it’s possible. And that’s the problem. You don’t put time and effort into something you think you can never achieve. Why should you?
Okay, if you can’t have a great marriage, why not?
Yup, most folks will blame their spouse. To be fair, they believe it. Thing is, most couples would each blame their spouse.
What if you’re wrong? What if your husband or wife is willing? What if they’re holding back because they think you’re not willing?
I know, you have experience that proves they won’t do what it would take. Odds are, they have experience that proves to them that you won’t. And so you suffer with a mediocre marriage, each sure it’s not your fault. Or perhaps your marriage is good, but it could be great.
You want to prove it’s your spouse? I know a way. Do everything in your power to make your marriage great. Give them anything within reason they say they want. Be all about grace, forgiving, and letting it go. Love. Sacrifice. Give. Be generous until you can’t do any more, and then ask God to help you do more.
If you do that for six months, and your marriage doesn’t improve, you will know you did all you could, and your spouse is the problem.
I dare you to do it. Lori dares you to do it. Widget and Tilly dare you to do it. And while God may not dare you, I feel safe in saying He would have you do it.
Why do you see the speck that is in your spouse’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? ~ Mt 7:3 (sort of)
~ This is Paul, and sometimes Doing Marriage Well means stepping out in faith.
Had our first freeze last night.
Latest we’ve ever seen. And the hoop house protected the tomatoes!
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