So how did you do? What did you learn?
Being honest is a practice. You learn what is important to communicate and you build the ability to stand up honestly for who you are and what you do/say.
I think one of the hardest things for me is that it’s easy to be dishonest with myself, and so I’m just passing on what I want to believe, not necessarily intentionally being dishonest with others. It’s amazing the things I can tell myself (it’s not really that important) instead of owning the truth (yes, it is, and I need to stand up for it or change it).
I also tend to explain my thoughts with perspectives I think my spouse will see as more reasonable. Certainly it’s truthful, but it’s not the more truthful or complete response. I’ve been practicing speaking the greater truth. Man, it is hard, but it feels good.
Also, there is the whole I-want-people-to-like-me thing. Telling the whole truth and upsetting folks means you have to deal with disappointing others or even get fussed at.