(Need to start at the beginning? Day 1)

What stops us from caring about others and taking their needs and wants seriously?

Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Philippians 2:3-4

Our culture has taught us to compete and win at all costs. What our culture hasn’t grasped is that that’s a recipe for loneliness and personal failure. (Christ modeled this amazing level of servitude and sacrifice, and it brought life and health to relationships.)

I think also there’s the fear that if we give a lot, we’ll go without. Like there’s not enough to go around.

half empty plate

Certainly there are practical limitations to time, money, and energy, but we’re not talking about not taking care of our own interests. We’re talking about giving others’ interest significant weight.

As an encouragement, there’s this blessing that comes from doing things God’s way. Years ago, I started practicing generosity with my husband (and I had some of those fears). However, instead of going without, it grew into something really special between me and my husband. We both learned the lovely blessing that comes with giving and serving.

What stalls out your ability to make room for your spouse’s needs and wants?

All my baby quail grew up and now …

a mess of quail eggs

It’s a good thing we like frittatas. 🙂


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