(Need to start at the beginning? Day 1)

As you think about this concept, look at how you and your spouse have shaped your marriage and relationships with family and friends.

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.  Genesis 2:24  ESV

My family lived at a distance when I married Paul, so the leave part was physically easy-peasy. It’s interesting, however, how much of my family of origin I took into my marriage.

unhappy couple at Christmas

Something as simple as how we approached the holidays became a place of conflict. Eventually Paul and I figured out how to keep the traditions that blessed us and create a few new ones, but I seriously wish we had considered such things earlier in our marriage.

We also had to develop a spouse first mentality.

Paul and I picked each other to create a covenant relationship with for life. All our other relationships, family and friends, need to support that (or at least not detract from it). Mostly I think we’ve done pretty good at it, but it’s one of those things where drift can happen, so I continue to make sure Paul has first place in all of my earthly relationships (God gets top billing).

What position does your spouse have in your life? Are there other relationships, family or friends, that are more important to you than your spouse? Are you and your spouse teammates for life?


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