Short cuts make long delays. ~ J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
Shortcuts are iffy, at best. Especially when we use them to improve our marriage.
In school, we’re not allowed to use calculators because they wanted us to learn to do math. But in advanced science they were okay with the shortcut of calculators because by then we all knew how to do basic math. Today we have high school graduates who have relied on calculators so much they can’t give change without one.
The power of a shortcut is like the power of a calculator; you can do more, and you can do it faster. The problem with shortcuts is you don’t learn basic skills you may need later.
The “passionate discussions”, AKA arguments, in your early marriage were important because they taught you about each other and about how to communicate when you were at odds. If you had flipped a coin to shortcut past those discussions, you would not have learned what you would need later for much more significant differences that could not be solved with a coin flip.
Marriage shortcuts can be very useful, but only if you know how to do the math by hand.
~ This is Paul, warning you that sometimes Doing Marriage Well means taking the long path.
The root crops are planted!
We have four kinds of potatoes, three kinds of onions, two kinds of carrots, and one kind of garlic. The straw is one of two rows of Russet potatoes as an experiment.
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