Lori and I attended a wedding on Sunday. The young couple was all about each other. You could tell they want to be together every moment, share everything, and talk about everything. Do you recall when you and your spouse felt that way?
What happened?
As we get to know each other better, we start to assume things and take things for granted. Some of that is both normal and good, but it’s easy to take it too far.
As we spend less time together, and don’t share everything we experience when we’re apart, we feel emotional distance. And this can lead to feeling disconnected.
As you may already have picked up this week, the way to avoid drifting apart from your spouse it intentionality. Be aware of what you do as a couple, and what you do apart. Be aware of how you feel when you’re together, and how you feel when you’re apart. When something good happens, are you excited to tell your spouse? Are they the first person with whom you want to share bad news?
If you see things that are not as they should be, make an effort to change. Fake it till you make it is perfectly acceptable here, and it can bring about real changes in how you feel. Your feelings can very much follow your actions. What’s more, your spouse is the same way.
~ This is Paul, saying Doing Marriage Well takes intentionality.
The day lilies are blooming.
These showed up in the tall grass around the pond a few years ago. No idea how they got there. I transplanted them up to our bulb garden.
Image Credit: © Paul H Byerly created with ideogram.ai & Paul Byerly
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